He's a work colleague by the way, and we would get on well in work but have no contact outside of work). reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Already have an account? It ended up leading to a follow-up video of straight girls kissing other girls for the first time. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. reader, Ellis Mac+, writes (25 October 2005): A If you are carrying so much guilt, it's generally a sign that you care a lot about someone and you are really sorry for what you have done- perhaps he realises this. It's wonderful that you even wanted to kiss someone! Hey all. Ashley Madison helped things along with extramarital affairs. BTW lips are also very much a part of foreplay that's what I've read. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. You're the worst! Can you tthan please explain this? :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? I dont believe in innocent kiss. I am 100% sure he will forgive you and will love you even more for telling him (which you should have done A LONG TIME AGO). You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. He Have Lipstick Stain Or Make Up Stain On His Face It's an obvious sign that someone kissed him. That was crazy' and other awkward things. Sums it up nicely. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved. My husband wasnt home at the time. Confide in someone you trust. I thought we were talking, in context of the above-type scenario, about mouth-to-mouth kissing being a 'gateway to sex' for the fact of it sparking physical arousal, ergo, whether delayed or in-the-moment, counts as foreplay, ergo, infidelity (albeit, granted, at the thin area of that whole wedge). But we have spoken since about it a lot. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened. SOULMATE (moderator), is this seriously your job? I believe, on the other hand, that if you got drunk and kissed someone because you were drunk and you had no feelings for the other person, there is no point in confessing about that kiss because a confession could cause trouble over nothing. For the last two years have read a lot about infidelity. v5.00a - 0.32607s [RUM] 2023-03-03 02:57:10. Hence - two aims for the price of one act: psychological fertility treatment + attention and affection. But now he has begun university and I trust him with everything but I keep thinking of what I did. Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. female We have only been seeing each other for the past two months and I dont want his mind racing with bad thoughts. When my husband came home, he could tell right away that I had been drinking. We are together 12 years altogether and although I had boyfriends before him, it was never serious, and he is the only man I've ever slept with. I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. Don't feel guilty because you are a mom (or dad) and you feel like you need to be spending time with them. / Dyathinkhesaurus? What if they were married? No matter how much we insist that "it's all good, bro, we're like, totally homies!", we don't mean it, not really. :-)), SOULMATE: Meant as in the universe of sisterhood (wrongly) To award Biggest B*lls on the Block Award -comment never was to imply same race- so on behalf of the Academy I accept :), (Good stuff. So what do you think? Would they be as lenient? Despite their passion during the kiss. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. Anon Pink, 20 ways to speak Love & Admiration to our husbands. In essence . What does it mean for my marriage? Later, he tried to make out and I said no because I felt it was wrong.I told him I needed a uber. But fine, then 'It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it': give him the truth *cleverly*. I could tell that he had a thing for you. I myself will have to comment tomorrow, now, although maybe SK and anyone else would like to join in in the meantime? He also sent me a mean text that said for me to go f myself and to stay away from him. However from what I've read passionate kissing lead to touching, petting,etc. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. Unless you literally were so drunk that you had no idea what you were doing, it's probably better for you to take responsibility for and own your behavior instead of saying "I got drunk" as an excuse. Bad things happen.Yes.but wat i d recomnd u is NEVER EVER tell him ! reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A You drank and you kissed. Such as crying,begging that would be enough for me to give them a second chance. Wife of 8 years straddled and flirted with my friend last night while drunk My Girlfriend Kissed Another Guy whilst Black-Out Drunk. A forum community dedicated to married life between you and your spouse. No, you don't. by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk And he kissed me and I reciprocated. Don't have an account? I wonder how that struggle with trust might affect bonding within a romantic relationship contex- oh, wait - could it, would it, on a train in the rain with a fox in a box, Sam-I-Am, possibly always communicate to your husband a sense that you don't fully enough trust *him*, in which case that must mean you're judging him by YOUR standards ergo he'd better hold back a bit just in case? For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. And it's weird, but it's like I need the guy to tell me what I did was ok and I'm not a bad person. I didnt tell him. Maybe she was experimenting or it was something shed thought about and wanted to see what it felt like. You had too much to drink and you kissed someone who wasnt your boyfriend or your girlfriend. female Lees theory has a big vulnerability. I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. Because just as everyone else is saying, if you did the RIGHT thing, you shouldn't feel guilty. I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. Remind her of your good points. I agree with Vale that the best thing you can do is talk to Cintia about what happened and tell her that seeing her kissing Mercy upset you. find me on and follow me on. Mercy got too drunk, Cintia was drunk but she was ok so far. ;-) Yet obviously (action of posting on a forum after having pulled the snog plug) you don't like that bit. But for me, it was. When you're in a long-term relationship, it's normal to have a little crush on someone other than your partner. Amazing how long this subject has carried on. / Houston, turns out I/you/I+You can't have kids the natural way after all, which is no-one's fault; let's try IVF / adopt / foster / console ourselves with the fact we'll always have each other, and the babies of people we know to borrow, and the freedom and greater financial means to please ourselves. 15 votes, 25 comments. But you sounded like you were willing to take it farther with him,and risk it all. Lol I love you already. Still, now that the courts are coming down wider and heavier on emotional abuse, I'm sure it's just a matter of time. "I really can't do this, I have no excuse, I'm married and he's lovely, it's not like I'm unhappy, he's a good person'" Good luck. 4. However one night a boy kissed me and I kissed him back. I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. But the guilt is killing me. Because guilt typically occurs in "micro-bursts" of brief signals, we often underestimate the rather significant role it plays in our daily lives. Before you close I'd like to say that I totally agree with you. She confessed to loving the experience and enjoyed the thrill knowing she had her husbands permission and he was watching her. Then you must be doing it wrong. But please seperate the issues. (although, I'm not sure how this counts as a debate if you and I are in total agreement, lol). I get the whole 'not wanting to hurt him' thing but, to some people at least, a kiss is very much cheating and so the SO deserves to know what happened right? Should I tell him or just get on with my life and put this whole sorry mess behind me? Your choice, as ever. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. WORK. I am giving him space to think. It's not the crime that counts, it's the time. Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. Why would you want to do that? So she told him for starters to kiss her well you know where. Later, I spoke to my fianc and he told me he loved me and was sorry. However, the fact that you kissed another guy can act as a trigger for him to think negatively of you. Jam, your wife holds the cards. (No, I'm very passionate about fidelity.) Carl Jung said that if you're dreaming of a stranger of the opposite sex, it usually means your psyche is tapping into your inner man or inner woman. Needing to hear this guy tell you it was OK- It was not OK. This. An innocent kiss usually involves getting so plastered that you lose your inhibitions and someone tries to kiss you and you return the kiss. Then he kissed me, and I kissed him back. Lee.. you are too funny. Feel free to start your own thread if you finally find you've a need to.). If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. New Mexico sunsets flat lands breathtaking. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. Okay if it was me who did that even thou I dont drink Ill first ask him as if its someone else who did it, like a friend or a colleague and if he overracts then think again but if hes all cool about it then break ice. The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. If the reaction isnt strong, then maybe its okay to confess. Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. She has just sent a private message to him on FB. Assistir Chelsea X Leeds - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. That left just me, the man and another woman. I rang the guy and said ' oh wow, so last night, that really happened, what the hell where we at? ' To submit your vote please sign in or sign up, it is free and takes a few seconds. "Sadly, many people who have a crush on someone else purposely get drunk ". However most people don't have a commitment that SOULMATE has with her husband that they will be 100% Honest with each other NO MATTER WHAT! female male i think OP is using 'kiss' to mean 'more than kiss', but whatever, it was 4 years ago in a rough patch.. everyone here is wrong. Secrets have no place in a marriage. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: It how you deal with it that makes the difference. I was dating thus guy for 6 months and he stopped calling and texting. [2] ..you showed you don't think of he and you as a team by sharing all information pertinent to the relationship; I wouldn't want to hear about it if I were in his position. LGBTYouTube stars Bria Kam and Chrissy Chambers (BriaAndChrissy) have released a videoexploring what its like for straight guys to kiss other men for the first time. I am NOT looking forward to spotting him in the corridor at workHOW EMBARRASSING!. I mean that in a funny way. Confesing to your husband was risky. Take it away, expand if you please! I kissed another man four years ago. ;-) (Awlthough, dang naace trah, they-yer, at tryin-a git' me ter disclows mah gendah. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. I just knew it. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. It's not fair they didn't ask for it. By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. Biological ones. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful.

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